July 15th, 2019 Truly Made A Difference
Sunday and today were 5-star days: I maintained the integrity of my calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal (6th and 7th days in a row), I completed a solid 30-minute elliptical workout both days, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.
I’m as surprised as anybody about getting four elliptical workouts completed in the last five days. I’m really connecting with it in ways that help me remember the therapeutic benefits. It certainly goes beyond the physical. Wearing the “I’m Choosing Change” wristband has truly made a difference in my resolve and daily awareness.
It’s late–so instead of writing too much more, it’s a good time for an excerpt from the archives–The following is from November 2014:
Processing emotions and allowing them to run their course without running for cover under a blanket of food is a very difficult thing for someone like me. It’s never perfect but with practice and intentional actions, changing the pattern is possible.
My emotional development was stunted at an early age when I developed a dependency on food to buffer my emotions. For me, the answer wasn’t to feel the emotions and work through them, processing the natural stages of the emotion. It was different. The routine was simple: Feel the onset of my changing emotional state–then eat, eat and eat some more, until the emotions subsided, or I forgot just how overwhelming they initially felt. And if I didn’t feel better, then maybe another helping of whatever would do the trick.
The distraction from the emotions during the joy of eating, followed by the natural effects of time on the emotions, meant I would actually feel better. I was convinced it was the food that made it all less challenging. Isn’t providing a little relief what “comfort” food is all about? “Here, eat this, you’ll feel better.”
I never allowed my emotions to process in a healthy way without an all-you-can-eat interruption. Instead of helping me work through emotions, this quickly developed reflex was in-effect, stopping my natural emotional development in its tracks. The food gave me an illusion of being okay while creating an emotional deficit with each occurrence. It was very much like emotional trading. Let me borrow the illusion that I’m all better today–and I’ll try to figure out how to pay for the pain some other time–just not right now, I’m eating. It’s a heavy price. For me, it meant spending twenty years near, at or above 500 pounds.
Then I lost 275 pounds. Then I maintained for a year and a half. Then I faced big emotions again. Then I hit the “escape into isolation” button and ate my way to gaining back over half, all but 111 pounds.
I had zero practice at allowing emotions to take their natural course. While I did lose weight successfully and maintain for a while, it wasn’t because I had learned how to properly feel and process emotions. I enjoyed the initial success because I built up an incredible support and accountability system. And it was my immaturity in dealing with emotions that created deficits anyway, and these eventually get balanced one way or another–usually in the form of holding me back or flat out destroying anything good or potentially good, that comes along.
Allowing the emotions to run their course isn’t easy. But I can honestly say that’s exactly what I’ve been doing lately. I’ve felt things I didn’t want to feel. I tighten my grip around the fundamentals of extraordinary care in the background by reaching out more for support and paying close attention to my behavior with food…and in the foreground of life, I allow myself to feel without buffers, without defenses–I just let it be, let it feel–let it run its course, and let it go.
Suddenly, I realize feeling these emotions isn’t the end of the world. It’s actually the pathway to new beginnings and better days where I’m not held back. It’s an entryway into a healthier existence where good and potentially good is allowed to flourish.
It was a long day today. I battled long lines at Walmart in order to grab a few things I needed after work, then I headed home–carried everything upstairs, put it all away, then I sat in my recliner and cried.
I cried the most cleansing cry I’ve ever experienced. And it felt amazing to let it out. I felt it, it was exhausting. And at the same time, it was the most natural and healthy relief, ever. It was cathartic. I just sat there afterward, letting it dry and feeling like a weight had been lifted.
View this post on Instagram#whatsfordinner My kind of double cheeseburger and fries. 6oz 96% lean beef pressed thin, cut in two pieces, 32g red onion, and 20g mustard with one slice colby jack folded into a Joseph’s Flax Seed/Oat Bran/Whole Wheat Pita. 210g fresh cut and baked sweet potato w/approx. 4 seconds olive oil cooking spray and 34g refined sugar-free ketchup. 605 cal. #dailypractice #foodplan #simplecooking
View this post on Instagram#breakfast #dailypractice #foodplan Refined flour-free, Refined sugar-free sprouted grain Ezekiel toast, two- one topped with 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, and 14g shredded marble jack cheese. One topped with 48g avocado mashed and seasoned simply with salt & pepper. 6.5oz Envy apple & 73g green grapes. #simplecooking 560 cal.
View this post on Instagram#whatsfordinner 284g catfish filets prepared with 1 egg white and 48g yellow corn meal and spices, then oven “fried” with approx. 6 seconds olive oil cooking spray. 150g red potato prepared simply with only 1 tbs half & half, salt and pepper. 153g green beans. #dailypractice #foodplan #simplecooking 644 cal.
The “I’m Choosing Change” wristband with “Before Change Chooses Me” imprinted on the inside, will be available from my new website that’s coming within a month or so (It’s in the design phase)–however, you can get one early if you desire! Send an email with your request: email@example.com and I’ll send you a direct PayPal invoice for the $15 charge and then personally ship yours right away! I shipped some today and I’d love to send you yours! It’s a powerful reminder every single day–connecting us with our “why” and helping keep a positive measure of awareness and mindfulness in place. It’s certainly doing good things for my personal awareness each day.
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Published at Tue, 16 Jul 2019 03:55:00 +0000